The love / lust / relationship thread.

[Bill]

Neil Murray is "The Love Doctor"!

[Mark Gherkin]

i can honestly say that in my situation at the moment, I cannot ask for more.

break-ups suck, but the people who helped both of us after we broke up are amazing (you know who you are), and helped me to look at things more positively.

About time you thanked me for talking you down from the ledge.

[treat]

this place has got plenty more stalkery recently eh?

ohhhhhh, speaking of which, Careen bought something from the Vagrant store. i now have her, neal and mtbrd's home addresses (plus a good few more). i could go on some kind of PT related rampage.

What the f-

YO!

[Tom Aylott]

bored of the pursuit i was on for a lady. now concentrating on my long term relationship*
















*this may or may not be an alcohol dependancy.

[missy_marsh]

Being a singleton is all I know

This. Haven't been out with anyone in five years and when I did it was never serious. It has it's ups and downs.

[Careen]

this place has got plenty more stalkery recently eh?

ohhhhhh, speaking of which, Careen bought something from the Vagrant store. i now have her, neal and mtbrd's home addresses (plus a good few more). i could go on some kind of PT related rampage.

What the f-

YO!

Don't put poo through my letterbox please.

[Bill]

this place has got plenty more stalkery recently eh?

ohhhhhh, speaking of which, Careen bought something from the Vagrant store. i now have her, neal and mtbrd's home addresses (plus a good few more). i could go on some kind of PT related rampage.

What the f-

YO!

Don't put poo through my letterbox please.

It won't be poo.

[aldo]

Not a love/lust/relationship, obviously.

I need to fix this thread before it gets locked.

Single is kinda weird but kinda nice after a long relationship.

How has everyone else felt after a relationship ended?

Last time I was confused for a while whether it was the person I missed or missed being in a relationship. Good luck dude.

To keep it on topic, the doc control girl on my project is actually amazing, shame she has a boyfriend.

[Dodger_123]

Not a love/lust/relationship, obviously.

I need to fix this thread before it gets locked.

Single is kinda weird but kinda nice after a long relationship.

How has everyone else felt after a relationship ended?

Last time I was confused for a while whether it was the person I missed or missed being in a relationship. Good luck dude.

To keep it on topic, the doc control girl on my project is actually amazing, shame she has a boyfriend.

And..

[Soph]

I think I got over my relationship while I was still in it, if that makes sense. He cheated on me with a friend a bunch of times, I tried to forgive and forget but couldn't etc etc (story been told before on here) and fell out of love pretty quickly. By the time it ended, I'd run out of tears and anger. I was totally positive about moving on and I ain't looked back.

[Alex--M]

It was wierd with me.

I'd been in a 2 and a bit year relationship, and even before then we were off and on for a bit 2 years prior, and we broke up because she moved to San Francisco - so I was sort of expecting to be a complete wreck..

I was obviously gutted for a few days...but oddly enough I got over it pretty quickly. I think it's because she was so far away there wasn't the whole 'what if she's seeing someone else' type fears...I could just move on with my life. I think my friends were also extremely supportive and there were lots of fun things to look forward to like accompanying Flash on the LP supports, recording our EP etc...

My biggest fear was, having been 'out of the game' for so long, and becoming decreasingly bothered about how I looked, I'd struggle to find anyone after. But within a week I'd got a pretty hot girls number so my self esteem returned as well.

So yeah, I was fine really! Which was really surprising..

[Nikos_Ramone]

It was wierd with me.

I'd been in a 2 and a bit year relationship, and even before then we were off and on for a bit 2 years prior, and we broke up because she moved to San Francisco - so I was sort of expecting to be a complete wreck..

I was obviously gutted for a few days...but oddly enough I got over it pretty quickly. I think it's because she was so far away there wasn't the whole 'what if she's seeing someone else' type fears...I could just move on with my life. I think my friends were also extremely supportive and there were lots of fun things to look forward to like accompanying Flash on the LP supports, recording our EP etc...

My biggest fear was, having been 'out of the game' for so long, and becoming decreasingly bothered about how I looked, I'd struggle to find anyone after. But within a week I'd got a pretty hot girls number so my self esteem returned as well.

So yeah, I was fine really! Which was really surprising..

that's really cool man.

[Soph]

It was wierd with me.

I'd been in a 2 and a bit year relationship, and even before then we were off and on for a bit 2 years prior, and we broke up because she moved to San Francisco - so I was sort of expecting to be a complete wreck..

I was obviously gutted for a few days...but oddly enough I got over it pretty quickly. I think it's because she was so far away there wasn't the whole 'what if she's seeing someone else' type fears...I could just move on with my life. I think my friends were also extremely supportive and there were lots of fun things to look forward to like accompanying Flash on the LP supports, recording our EP etc...

My biggest fear was, having been 'out of the game' for so long, and becoming decreasingly bothered about how I looked, I'd struggle to find anyone after. But within a week I'd got a pretty hot girls number so my self esteem returned as well.

So yeah, I was fine really! Which was really surprising..

that's really cool man.

Mine too. After nearly 9 years with the same guy, who i thought I was gonna marry and spend the rest of my life with (before I realised he was a cheating cunt), I had absolutely no idea what to expect. But the fear of that wasn't as bad as the fear of staying with someone to avoid that fear (makes sense?)...
I've had a lot of fun the last 3 months but it's all still new!

[Nikos_Ramone]

It was wierd with me.

I'd been in a 2 and a bit year relationship, and even before then we were off and on for a bit 2 years prior, and we broke up because she moved to San Francisco - so I was sort of expecting to be a complete wreck..

I was obviously gutted for a few days...but oddly enough I got over it pretty quickly. I think it's because she was so far away there wasn't the whole 'what if she's seeing someone else' type fears...I could just move on with my life. I think my friends were also extremely supportive and there were lots of fun things to look forward to like accompanying Flash on the LP supports, recording our EP etc...

My biggest fear was, having been 'out of the game' for so long, and becoming decreasingly bothered about how I looked, I'd struggle to find anyone after. But within a week I'd got a pretty hot girls number so my self esteem returned as well.

So yeah, I was fine really! Which was really surprising..

yeah, I'm exactly the same, my confidence has taken a total battering, so actually 'getting back out there' might take some time for me! I just have no idea where to start.

[Joe1234]

I seem to have never really given myself a chance to be alone since I was about 15 really, had a string (well, 3) of fairly long-term relationships with the second one being "it." In terms of she's still the one thing I regret losing because what we actually had was amazing, since then I've had a couple of little things and one fairly long term relationship which has just ended and I guess now I'm trying to let myself actually be alone for some time because I seem to just fall for the feeling and not the person and it wouldn't be fair on anyone really.

wow, it feels nice to just vent.

[*Abi*]

I've been mates / seeing ish this guy for a bit now. He's told me he likes me, and his friends told me he does, but he only seems to show it when he's drunk because he's really shy.

Apparently he's going to ask me out this week, but I don't know what to do, he's completely different from me - doesnt really go out where I go out, we dont share any similar music tastes so he wont be at gigs but i really like him. Confusement !

[Joe1234]

Apparently he's going to ask me out this week, but I don't know what to do, he's completely different from me - doesnt really go out where I go out, we dont share any similar music tastes so he wont be at gigs but i really like him. Confusement !

if you really like the guy though it should work. my best friend is going out with someone completely different to him in terms of dress/music/going out places and it seems to work for the pretty well. i guess maybe cos they aren't SO similar that they are always doing the same things at the same places as each other?

i talk some crap sometimes sorry

[Sibanez]

It was wierd with me.

I'd been in a 2 and a bit year relationship, and even before then we were off and on for a bit 2 years prior, and we broke up because she moved to San Francisco - so I was sort of expecting to be a complete wreck..

I was obviously gutted for a few days...but oddly enough I got over it pretty quickly. I think it's because she was so far away there wasn't the whole 'what if she's seeing someone else' type fears...I could just move on with my life. I think my friends were also extremely supportive and there were lots of fun things to look forward to like accompanying Flash on the LP supports, recording our EP etc...

My biggest fear was, having been 'out of the game' for so long, and becoming decreasingly bothered about how I looked, I'd struggle to find anyone after. But within a week I'd got a pretty hot girls number so my self esteem returned as well.

So yeah, I was fine really! Which was really surprising..

yeah, I'm exactly the same, my confidence has taken a total battering, so actually 'getting back out there' might take some time for me! I just have no idea where to start.

All you need is the confidence/ability to talk to some one. Forget all the routines you see about because what works for one, doesn't for another, plus trying to act into some technique usually ends up not working as you wanted it to. Be yourself and you'll be alright.

If you've taken a dent to the confidence then don't just jump straight in trying to pull anything you can, just start taking down the aprehension by talking to girls about anything and everything. Once you've started to be more comfortable with that then it makes making approaches much easier and of course, the inevitable rejection that happens to us all. Fuck it, just start talking to anyone and everyone, people in shop queues, people at the bus stop, anyone you don't know basically and any social phobias will be gone in no time.

[*Abi*]

Apparently he's going to ask me out this week, but I don't know what to do, he's completely different from me - doesnt really go out where I go out, we dont share any similar music tastes so he wont be at gigs but i really like him. Confusement !

if you really like the guy though it should work. my best friend is going out with someone completely different to him in terms of dress/music/going out places and it seems to work for the pretty well. i guess maybe cos they aren't SO similar that they are always doing the same things at the same places as each other?

i talk some crap sometimes sorry

Yeha this is true, 99% of the guys ive dated have been mates really, and our big group of friends hang out with each other every day and go to exactly the same places which is why its always worked pretty well.
Dunnoo, might give it a chance!

[Jammer]

I've been mates / seeing ish this guy for a bit now. He's told me he likes me, and his friends told me he does, but he only seems to show it when he's drunk because he's really shy.

Apparently he's going to ask me out this week, but I don't know what to do, he's completely different from me - doesnt really go out where I go out, we dont share any similar music tastes so he wont be at gigs but i really like him. Confusement !

Well thats cool, cuz then you can goto gigs with your mates and do seperate things with him instead of being round him alllll the time. If you really like him don't worry about it.

[Careen]

It's better to date someone you don't have EVERYTHING in common with, otherwise you'll find that a relationship will get pretty stale pretty fast.

[Joe1234]

It's better to date someone you don't have EVERYTHING in common with, otherwise you'll find that a relationship will get pretty stale pretty fast.

total agreement. i say go for it.

[*Abi*]

Yeah true

Can't bring 'new' boys out with me at night anyways, my guy mates give them so much shit, its really mean, they're actually worse than my dad

Last night someone was trying to buy me a drink, my friend Dean grabbed him, went 'Oy mate, thats my fucking girlfriend' and the guy turned around and walked off. I was like, cheers, thanks a lot

[Sibanez]

Take the gamble, it might go well, it might not. If it doesn't, call it off, not the end of the world, but if it does happy days.

[Jammer]

Why? He was trying to buy you a drink! Sounds like a couple of your guy mates may be abit jealous?